Communication is complicated When we are one to two years We learn to talk But communicate . . . We come out howling oftentimes We gurgle with pleasure at mere weeks of age We smile and bond with others We grasp fingers with our tiny hands And we howl Not always communicating with clarity But getting messages across Loud and clear Then we master the art of language And communication changes It is not always as truthful As the pre-verbal vocalizations Especially as we age My friend spoke today Of communication Her words struck me as so wise She spoke specifically Of how, when people send messages Which they think the other may resist, be hurt or angered by They often try to soften the blow by being subtle. She spoke of the importance of being kind And that is not done by being subtle. Subtleties can cloud our message Leave room for misunderstanding And confusion Subtle can be cowardly Sidestepping truth In favor of attempting to “spare feelings” Subtle is most often not kind It likely is not communicating the full truth It relays the message that the recipient is not intelligent, strong or wise And he or she “Cannot handle the truth!” Truth is a precious gem In our world of superficialities, Mis-truths and deception Truth can be the beginning of growth, healing and intimacy Truth is gift When delivered with kindness Truth makes clear a path For future journeys To places of wholeness and liberation People have said “It is better to be kind than right.” It is also better to be truthful With kindness Than to skirt around the truth With subtleties Protecting ourselves from confrontation or emotional responses Protecting ourselves But leaving others in the dark Confused and alone Truth told with kindness is the way Said my friend For subtle does not show Respect, honesty or trust Nor does it shed light In the shadows of life.